Ever since my Uncle's funeral, I've been keeping this deep in the back of my mind. My parents were both 38 when I came home, not a big deal right? Women have children at that age and sometimes older... But do they ever think how their children will feel when they hit their 20s?
Here's my logic, may not make sense because I'm trying not to get emotional about it.
My best friend is 28, her mother is 50
My husband is 25 is parents are 50-51... his grandparents are 65-69
My cousin Marcus 32, My Uncle Al was in his early to mid 50s
I'm 24 and my parents are 62..
My parents are the same age as my husbands grandparents... and yes his Granny had his dad when she was 15 but do you see the gap that concerns me?
Chris's GiGi, Paw Paw and Granny are in their 60s with great grand children, they get to enjoy them for maybe another 20 years! And possibly even live to see Great-Great grands....
Will my parents be around in another 20 years? They both HATE doctors, so I'm always worried, will I have to bury my parents in my 40s? Will i have to bury them SOONER?
My dad's father... my grandfather developed dementia in his early to mid 70s... his about 84 now about 2 years ago he had no clue who I was... will my dad have the same fate?
His step mother passed away in her 50s from breast cancer...
My dad's bio Mom, passed in her 50s to 60s from breast cancer and her husband 2 years later from a brain aneurysm
My maternal grandmother was 79... how much longer do I have with my parents?
I shouldn't have to worry about this at 24!!!
Friday, February 11, 2011
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Le Chateau des Fleurs
Ok this is definatly a shout out post! I have a new follower who I admire greatly! Frenchy from Le Chateau des Fleurs! Never in a million year did I think I would have a follower that has over 2,000 people read her blog on a daily basis! The way she has parties with her children remind me of when I was little and my mom and I would get out my tiny china set and have tea and pastries just because we could!
Frenchy reminds me why I miss being a stay at home mom!
Here are a couple of my favorite posts/parties!
Are you as obsessed with Pirates as I am? Then you'll love Frenchy's pirate parties!
Doesn't that cake not only look yummy, but totally awesome!?
What about her son's 7th birthday cake....
I hope you enjoyed her blog as much as I do! I could go on for days about her, but then I think my few readers may run away! lol
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| Le Chateau des Fleurs |
Doesn't that cake not only look yummy, but totally awesome!?
What about her son's 7th birthday cake....
And with Valentine's Day coming up, why not look at her 14 Days Of Valentines
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| I love you, in French |
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| Simple and Sweet |
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Drama-Rama
So, I'm planning on having to hear about people bitching about this post but you know what I'm done! I don't care it's my blog, if you don't want to read it there's a little red "X" in the top right corner... Sorry but I'm pissed!
There is one place I go for support, and to support others in the adoption triad... but lately it's just turned into a bitch feast! Remember the scene in Mean Girls in the cafeteria? Where everyone is fighting like animals? Now think of that but with people of the triad! (some)Aparents seem to love to attack Bparents AND adoptees because we have a different opinion always putting words into our mouths "Because you feel this way you are saying we're less than parents" ugh! No! No one AT ALL is saying you're a terrible parent.. and if someone were to do so we'd probably all jump down their throats! It's getting to the point where I don't want to comment on a topic that I'd like to weigh in on out of fear of being slammed for my opinion... Thanks for making me feel like a terrible person for not agreeing with you and wanting to make someone feel like they aren't alone...
There are a select few Aparents that I get along with... they seem to be the "sane" ones... not the over zealous crazy ones...They respect the opinion of us adoptees, even if they disagree... these are the parents of children I see always knowing, accepting, and loving their "adoptee status"
Blah I don't know how to feel right now!
There is one place I go for support, and to support others in the adoption triad... but lately it's just turned into a bitch feast! Remember the scene in Mean Girls in the cafeteria? Where everyone is fighting like animals? Now think of that but with people of the triad! (some)Aparents seem to love to attack Bparents AND adoptees because we have a different opinion always putting words into our mouths "Because you feel this way you are saying we're less than parents" ugh! No! No one AT ALL is saying you're a terrible parent.. and if someone were to do so we'd probably all jump down their throats! It's getting to the point where I don't want to comment on a topic that I'd like to weigh in on out of fear of being slammed for my opinion... Thanks for making me feel like a terrible person for not agreeing with you and wanting to make someone feel like they aren't alone...
There are a select few Aparents that I get along with... they seem to be the "sane" ones... not the over zealous crazy ones...They respect the opinion of us adoptees, even if they disagree... these are the parents of children I see always knowing, accepting, and loving their "adoptee status"
Blah I don't know how to feel right now!
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
biracial hair ...by Zora Howard
I have bi-racial hair
Pantene Pro-V waves on the top
Easy to style, comb, rock-
Until-I encounter my naps,
I’m not talking about those-cute detangle with the spray naps.
I’m talking about those, slave naps, like,
No comb, brush, or man can handle the kind of naps I got- like,
No way you are touching my hair-naps like
Back 10 feet up, or we can dance naps
Those naps like-
DAMN!
I have bi-racial hair,
Those smooth and silk rafts hanging all through my mane,
Until you get to the back, and encounter the jungle, in which you can find Tarzan and Jane.
In the front you forget and relax in the pleasure,
Until you get to the back and remember pain
Baby hair slicked back with that good 4 dollar pomade,
That goes with roots and tangles,
Soaked with that same olive oil; mixed with that spaghetti sauce momade.
I have bi-racial hair,
Combs run freely through my fine breezy, just to the part, the most you can make,
Until it gets to the back and
Breaks.
I have bi-racial hair
Like-
The only thing my mother could put it in was 2 big braids,
And sometimes that was to much,
So she left half undone.
I was in the mirror, I was in the mirror,
Convincing my self I looked just like a dark-skinned Alicia Keys
I have bi-racial hair,
because I have bi-racial blood.
I’m not talking about that-cute they met then fell in love, blood
I’m talking about that- slaved raped six times by the master,
Birthing 6 mixed babies, later hung blood
I’m talking about that cross burning in the mud, blood
And you call me a mud blood,
Slit my rist,
my blood does not excrete in black and white.
I drean in verse and in red
Like what drained from Emmit Tills’ lips when he was killed for breaking down color lines
Bi-racial who surcomes to the abuse from her peers in her middle school,
Those whose who constantly called me an Oreo
Well she’s not white, its more like Reese’s cookie, mixed breed or a mullato
That’s what it is a reverse mulatto
I AM NOT A FUCKING COOKIE OR A BITCH!
My roots are deep too
my bi-racial roots are not blind
or more than cotton soft
cause my blood were in the sun, picking cotton too
a thousand times discrated for my race
a thousand time discrated from my history y'all never get
let textbooks be your truth
and sprinkle the ashes of your history into streams
i dream for a time and place where
maybe y'all all accept me
maybe we need to wake up again and remember a morning of you
like something new
baby I'll be green cause my people drove there
you people drove me there
with my tender heart
tender head
and my bi-racial hair
Pantene Pro-V waves on the top
Easy to style, comb, rock-
Until-I encounter my naps,
I’m not talking about those-cute detangle with the spray naps.
I’m talking about those, slave naps, like,
No comb, brush, or man can handle the kind of naps I got- like,
No way you are touching my hair-naps like
Back 10 feet up, or we can dance naps
Those naps like-
DAMN!
I have bi-racial hair,
Those smooth and silk rafts hanging all through my mane,
Until you get to the back, and encounter the jungle, in which you can find Tarzan and Jane.
In the front you forget and relax in the pleasure,
Until you get to the back and remember pain
Baby hair slicked back with that good 4 dollar pomade,
That goes with roots and tangles,
Soaked with that same olive oil; mixed with that spaghetti sauce momade.
I have bi-racial hair,
Combs run freely through my fine breezy, just to the part, the most you can make,
Until it gets to the back and
Breaks.
I have bi-racial hair
Like-
The only thing my mother could put it in was 2 big braids,
And sometimes that was to much,
So she left half undone.
I was in the mirror, I was in the mirror,
Convincing my self I looked just like a dark-skinned Alicia Keys
I have bi-racial hair,
because I have bi-racial blood.
I’m not talking about that-cute they met then fell in love, blood
I’m talking about that- slaved raped six times by the master,
Birthing 6 mixed babies, later hung blood
I’m talking about that cross burning in the mud, blood
And you call me a mud blood,
Slit my rist,
my blood does not excrete in black and white.
I drean in verse and in red
Like what drained from Emmit Tills’ lips when he was killed for breaking down color lines
Bi-racial who surcomes to the abuse from her peers in her middle school,
Those whose who constantly called me an Oreo
Well she’s not white, its more like Reese’s cookie, mixed breed or a mullato
That’s what it is a reverse mulatto
I AM NOT A FUCKING COOKIE OR A BITCH!
My roots are deep too
my bi-racial roots are not blind
or more than cotton soft
cause my blood were in the sun, picking cotton too
a thousand times discrated for my race
a thousand time discrated from my history y'all never get
let textbooks be your truth
and sprinkle the ashes of your history into streams
i dream for a time and place where
maybe y'all all accept me
maybe we need to wake up again and remember a morning of you
like something new
baby I'll be green cause my people drove there
you people drove me there
with my tender heart
tender head
and my bi-racial hair
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